Sunday, September 19, 2010

What makes a good parent?

All too often you see judgmental people. People who are labeled as "freaks" for 'looking different.' Adults that also happen to be parents usually are judged more often than not for their appearances.

What makes a good parent? I would think that ones parenting abilities should not be judged on the color of their skin, the way they speak, color of their hair, or tattoos on their arms. That a good parent is one who makes sure their children are taken care of; food, clothing, and shelter. Not only those material things, but also parents who show affection to their children & let them know often that they are loved. I was looking online for examples from forums and what not on what certain parents think what "makes a good parent" and I got some of the following examples:

"...expresses warmth love and affection for the child, so the child can internalize it. they do not ignore the child, say mean things to the child, tease the child, withdraw love for bad reasons...

...praises and encourages the child. picks the good focuses on strengths, helps overcome weaknesses. does not criticize the child or put the child up to certain standards."

"Anyone can give a child food, shelter and clothes. A good parent will also supply a child with motivation (a reason to do), encouragement (morale support), discipline (non-abusive), lead by example (not, do as I say not as I do), and will spend time with their kids outside (this is a good way to connect). These are just a few opinions."

Thus far, I haven't found anything mentioning how a 'good parent' should appear. The photo above for those who may be reading my blog that I do not know, is myself. It looks somewhat different than my profile photo. My tattoos are covered & the only piercing I think you can see is my nose. I decided to dye some of my hair blue today, as I do around this time of the year every year. I like it, it defines me. Edgy, extravagant, & fun. 

What do you think about today's blog?


  1. The thing is, there are stereotypes and that's why someone who looks different, piercings, tattoos, off the wall hair colors and young parents are judged.. Because there are SOOOO many parents out there who have those things and are young that are BAD parents so they are all grouped together and there is really no getting around it. You just have to ignore it and KNOW that YOU are doing the best and that you are a GOOD parent and screw what those others are going to do and how they are going to judge you. It also doesn't help that you are a YOUNG parent and that the parents who are much older grew up in a COMPLETELY different world.

  2. Totally get what you're saying Wendy! That's what I mean when I ask what makes a good parent? My point is, it doesn't matter what you look like..It's how you act!