Education importance in your family.

 

My school life was a short one.

I was reading chapter books by the age of 4, kindergarten teachers wanted to put me in advanced learning, I was doing rather well in my younger years. One of the many disappointments in my child hood was when someone gave my Mom and Step-Dad the bright idea of home schooling. Ok, before you start thinking that I'm going to write this entire blog knocking on home school, I'm not. 

One of the embarrassing mistakes I think for my Mom was that I was pulled out of school to do nothing. I did not do work. In fact I don't remember doing any work at all except to turn it in so we wouldn't get into trouble. So maybe a few tests here and there that I got the answers given to me. I remember the truency officer coming over to my home because someone (I'm assuming a family member) had turned Scott & my Mother in for me not doing any type of schooling. Everything was pretty easy to get around and we continued to not do a thing. I did not learn anything for 1,2,3,4 or 5th grades. In that mean time my Mom had 2 kids, her marriage was falling apart, and amongst other things started to happen. They both decided to dump me into 5th grade again (which means I would be "held back" but had the educational mind of a 1st grader.) I did rather well in everything for the most part. Reading & writing were my strong points because that's all I knew how to do. Math, Science,Spelling and other things were my weak points and still are my weak points. I have hard time adding and subtracting unless I'm using my fingers, I really truely sometimes feel like an idiot.

In my Jr. High years I barely passed Math. I would always do the extra credits and things to get my grade up to a D, and as most of you know I dropped out of High School 1st semester of 10th grade (which would've been originally my 11th grade year) I passed my GED with flying colors...Oh except for the Math of course. They failed me for the entire test because I didn't do well in math but perfected everything else. So I gave up on that, because I figured I must not even be good enough to get that done.

With my kids I'm hoping & praying that it will be completely different. Every since Alexander was born I've always sang ABC's and 123's with him. I taught him how to write his name by the age of 2 1/2 and he is reading what they call "fluent" chapter books in the 1st grade. Guess what he is struggling with, though? Math. I never ever thought to teach him how to add things. I feel like as a Mother I've failed to teach him how to add and take away/ do simple little equations....It never even crossed my mind. I've written his teacher a note on trying to help him with his problems because I don't ever want him to feel like he is stupid because he doesn't understand. Anyone can do anything if they have a good support system behind them. That goes for all of the children. Joey, Dylan, Miley, Aiden, & even our unborn baby. I never want them to feel like they aren't smart because they just "don't get it" I want them to succeed in life and that is my main goal in MY life. They don't have to be little geniuses or anything or straight A students even, I just know that every single one of them has potential to be something magnificent. I just wish someone would've thought that about me.

Hobbies

So you're probably thinking I'm crazy but I have seriously been wanting to pick up a hobby for the past couple of weeks. My problem with finding a hobby to do is finding the time to actually do something worth while. I guess I have picked up 'blogging' has a hobby but it's not really something I can show for it. I want to work with something and be creative. So, I looked at some ideas online for 'working moms and hobbies' and I found a lot of neat things...But I had a sarcastic comment to go with every single thing.

Scrapbooking  I don't feel like spending hours and hours on something the children will find and destroy..again.....(I would like to invest in a shelf) 

Knitting  Hi, I'm not 60.

Crossword puzzles are for squares?

Flying a plane  Oh yeah, I have one of those in my back yard?!?

Blogging  Sweet....Already do that one!

The list goes on and on and on...Basically it was a lost cause for me. I miss taking tons of photographs, my computer that I had died and J's computer is pretty much the oldest piece of junk ever, so that's kind of out of the question.....I need some ideas!

Eventful Sunday! or not....

I have a not-so-happy little girl in a sling in my arms in this photograph! This was at about 12:30am last night after sitting in the ER since 8pm waiting to figure out what the deal was with her arm.

Yesterday afternoon  we all were at Alexanders football game. My ex-husband was there playing with the children as usual and apparently while he was playing with her he grabbed her wrong and A)broke something B)dislocated something or C)sprained something. I'm sitting here waiting for the radiologist to call me and tell me what the dealio is. Mileys got a splint on & she's also got this sling so she'll be out of school for a few days. I feel so bad because we're not sure if it's a growth plate thats broken or what the deal is...I hate just sitting and waiting to find out why she can't move her arm & why she's in such pain!


Aside from that, holy crap! I got a huge amount of messages/comments/responses in general on my last blog. I really wasn't expecting that many people to respond to what I was feeling. It was pretty interesting & comforting knowing that  a lot of people in this world feel the same way that I do about issues such as that one.

I really don't have much else to report; nothing going on currently in my brain :) Hope everyone has a wonderful Monday.

Family Secrets.

Every family has a secret.
The secrets the older ones know & keep from the younger ones from finding out.



I haven't been sleeping very well or thinking very well either. I've been trying to keep my mind busy with things that are positive. I feel like I'm having some kind of emotional relapse and it's really not a good deal.

Nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults (including assaults on adults) occur to children ages 17 and under.

30-40% of victims are abused by a family member.

I don't understand why it's fair to me or anyone else for myself to be locked inside my head, afraid that one day that someone I love is going to be hurt like I was because I can't tell. I was the one shut out- I was the one abused- I was the one that had my childhood stole from me- but it's not my place to speak? 

Have you told your sons, your daughters, your brothers & your sisters about predators? Are you keeping them safe?

Nearly 50% of all victims of forcible sodomy, sexual assault with an object, and forcible fondling are children under 12.
An estimated 60% of teen first pregnancies are preceded by experiences of molestation, rape, or attempted rape. The average age of their offenders is 27 years.

I was wondering, are these statistics you want to mess with? ARE THESE STATISTICS THAT YOU WANT TO KEEP A SECRET?

Nearly 70% of child sex offenders have between 1 and 9 victims; at least 20% have 10 to 40 victims. (23)An average serial child molester may have as many as 400 victims in his lifetime.  http://www.darkness2light.org/knowabout/statistics_2.asp



You tell me to keep quiet?
Continue to help the offenders offend.

 

Weekend & Problems....Or possibly addictions....

Yesterday night I dyed J's hair red...It looked like a murder scene we had a lot of fun with it. My sister enjoyed watching us being silly. It's the first time J has ever dyed his hair so I'm glad I got to cristen him :)

So, I think I have this huge problem....It's not really a bad problem but it's like, I have this really hard time with buying people things...ESPECIALLY clothes. If I see something & it's pretty inexpensive I'm going to buy it. I absolutely love going to old navy when they have sales & I love finding brand new clothes with tags on them at yard sales. I found a lot of things with tags on them-name brand- for my sister & for the kids this weekend..Totally happy. J however, isn't that thrilled at my spending habits on the children. I really can't help it though! I think since I grew up with not having that many "in style" clothes I just want my kids to be able to feel like they never have to feel like they don't have anything to wear. Same thing for my brother & sisters...and I always am keeping my eyes out for my niece and nephew (Adam and Lizzy) especially Adam since he's a string bean and I found some awesome pants for him today. Totally happy about that.

Okay, so maybe I do have a problem..But my problem generally never comes to a total of over $50.00 so that's good...Right?!?! (Minus a few days ago when I spent almost 100 dollars on halloween costumes, but we have 5 kids to buy for)

On a more serious note, all of our bills are paid and this isn't something I do every day or every weekend. I do it at least once a month if that. I just know that when I find a good sale I can't pass it up, these kids are my life & I feel they deserve to be spoiled Knoxville brats.

This is pretty much a completely unrelated family blog.

These are just things that are inside of Momma's head right now & if it offends you, I can't really say that I'm sorry. So, I guess this is kind of my warning to you.

What is it with people? This is a serious question no doubt. I don't understand how one moment you are someones life & someones world and that could be broken in a blink of an eye. Relationships and friendships are basically what I'm speaking about. I'm not really speaking of anyone in particular either, seeing as I've had a lot of 'love losses' in my short time here on earth I've been reflecting on things as such.

It's like, hilarious to me how once you break up with someone or you aren't someones friend anymore they have to say something negative about you. Usually made-up stories or lies, when just a month ago or a year ago you were their rock...Perhaps even their life....and then within a blink of an eye you are shit. Automatically you are the fattest, ugliest, worst person they've ever met and they can't even believe they had a friendship/relationship with you. If your a male your penis is the smallest and if your a female you were the biggest whore. It doesn't matter what age bracket you are in, I've heard this from mouths of 30 somethings talking about ex wives, or friends, or someone elses ex wife.

Nine times out of 10 if I think something is important enough to say to someone else I've probably already said it to you, even if we aren't friends anymore, I still stick by my feelings as far as what kind of person I think you are.  Just because we're not together or friends, your wiener hasn't changed, you're probably still gorgeous as you were before. I have no reason to make up lies, I have no reason to continue to be bitter. I've probably already forgave you when you've just began hating me.

So continue, please. I'm the downgrade, I'm the fat one, I was terrible in bed, I'm a shitty Mother, a shitty wife & I never was a good friend. Just remember not too long ago I was the 360 of that, just because I played along with you, until one day you screwed it up. Whoever you are, that shit doesn't matter to me anymore, and most of you already know it. Some of you don't. Let's live our lives and think of the good times and forget the bad.

Halloween traditions

Halloween

So, today we got 4/5 costumes for the kids for Halloween. Super duper excited about that! We spent a small fortune but I wanted to make sure that we have what the kids want for Halloween....This happens to be my favorite Holiday so I'm always stoked for this time of year.

 I was thinking about traditions for us and the only one that I seem to carry on is that we have to decorate pumpkins. Either paint or carve it doesn't matter to me. Last year, I shared this with Dylan and Joseph & their Mom so I'm excited that I get to at least continue the tradition with the boys and the other 3 again this year.

Beliefs

I do not participate in any kind of "satanic" rituals or practice anything of witch craft...... as far as Halloween goes. It's just for fun for me and my family. We love to decorate in "spooky" things and dress up for some candy. It is F-U-N, and has no true meaning for me.

Check out this hilarious website I found, in which most of these things I was told and led to believe as a child. Which is why I wasn't allowed to trick or treat & when I was allowed to go to school (thats another subject) I either didn't attend school that day or I was the dork that sat out in the hallways reading a book.... because cookies, candy & the wizard of oz obviously is also celebratory for Halloween and will condemn me to hell as a child of 6.

http://www.exposingsatanism.org/halloween.htm

"If you are a professing Christian, you have no reason to be part of this holy day of Satan. Don't use the old cop out "well every body does it". No everybody is not doing it. God will hold you responsible for what you do this Halloween. Will you go ahead and participate in it? Or will you pass along the word and let someone know what the real meaning is."


Yes, god is clearly going to hold me responsible for getting my children free candy and playing dress up.I just really can't fathom God being so ridiculous especially with the way things are these days! This is the year 2010, half of the people in the USA probably doesn't even know the "history" behind Halloween. Condemnation to hell for ignorance? Eh, that's also another post I'd like to make sometime. But I'll try to keep on track.


I'd rather you look at the not so in-your-face & rather ridiculous version of the HISTORY of Halloween.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halloween

The previous website where this man (or woman?) had gave his views on Halloween, he does pretty much get the jist of  the history...But people, seriously, it's just that...HISTORY...This is 2010, if you don't want to celebrate this holiday by all means don't. But don't try & ruin it for others, especially your children. The orgin. of Halloween is *DARE I SAY IT AGAIN..HISTORY*, we made it our own & this crap doesn't exist anymore (the harmful spirits) unless you allow yourself to "provoke" them. Leave the meddling to those psychics, ghost hunters and whoever else that likes to meddle with evil/good spirits and let this holiday be fun.

Chores

So, I'm sure by now you can imagine what kind of chaos our house goes through after reading the latest blogs. Sometimes it's hard to keep up with the messes that are made. My first trimester was the worst time for our home. As I've said before, this is the roughest pregnancy and I had always been sick, tired and just plain blah. Recently I've found my energy button that I had and I've been able to keep up with dishes and other things! Woohoo :)

I've decided that Alexander is old enough to get paid for doing chores. We're not really talking about big bucks here, just $5.00 a week for doing a chore Mon-Fri. I've set up a daily chore chart on our dry-erase (god send) calender under the notes so he can look at it daily and remind himself that certain things need to be done.

As far as the younger ones go, that's still a work in progress. Getting 3 three year olds to do ANYTHING you tell them to do is a work in progress......It will get better with time (I try to chant to myself quietly daily...haha)

That's all I have to blab about for this afternoon...I'm waiting for the nice storms to roll in and cool this crappy hot day down.

Adults who act like children.

More often than not, I have to deal with petty little things that certain people do and say and it truly makes me wonder...How do you live your life as an adult with the kind of immature mindset that you have?

I have recently discovered the kill them with kindness way of life, because honestly I can't stand to highly (very highly) dislike someone(s) and be uncomfortable every time I hear or have to interact with people. I don't really feel like living my life with a huge scowl on my face...Even if sometimes on the inside I am saying sarcastic comment after comment with my quick wit. *wink*

But you know when it's a constant battle to try to ignore certain petty things, I just really weighs on me and sometimes I really just need to get it out. I can not and probably won't ever understand the way some people are and why they are the way they are. But the only thing that I can remember is that I am better than that. I've never believed I was better than anyone & I still don't particularly think that way...But I know that I am better than how they are because I know when it's time to play and act silly while being a Mother & a wife...and it's apparent to me that others seem to lack that ability.

What makes a good parent?

All too often you see judgmental people. People who are labeled as "freaks" for 'looking different.' Adults that also happen to be parents usually are judged more often than not for their appearances.

What makes a good parent? I would think that ones parenting abilities should not be judged on the color of their skin, the way they speak, color of their hair, or tattoos on their arms. That a good parent is one who makes sure their children are taken care of; food, clothing, and shelter. Not only those material things, but also parents who show affection to their children & let them know often that they are loved. I was looking online for examples from forums and what not on what certain parents think what "makes a good parent" and I got some of the following examples:

"...expresses warmth love and affection for the child, so the child can internalize it. they do not ignore the child, say mean things to the child, tease the child, withdraw love for bad reasons...

...praises and encourages the child. picks the good focuses on strengths, helps overcome weaknesses. does not criticize the child or put the child up to certain standards."

"Anyone can give a child food, shelter and clothes. A good parent will also supply a child with motivation (a reason to do), encouragement (morale support), discipline (non-abusive), lead by example (not, do as I say not as I do), and will spend time with their kids outside (this is a good way to connect). These are just a few opinions."http://www.uncommonforum.com/viewtopic.php?t=30713


Thus far, I haven't found anything mentioning how a 'good parent' should appear. The photo above for those who may be reading my blog that I do not know, is myself. It looks somewhat different than my profile photo. My tattoos are covered & the only piercing I think you can see is my nose. I decided to dye some of my hair blue today, as I do around this time of the year every year. I like it, it defines me. Edgy, extravagant, & fun. 

What do you think about today's blog?

Weekender Blah Blah Blah's

I decided to wear one of my "tighter" shirts yesterday evening and show my somewhat pregnant belly. It's about 50% fat and 50% pregnancy right now! (haha) and I would like to mention I have not gained a thing at 17 weeks and 3 days. I'm very ready for different aches & pains than I have now.

Ahhhh, well it's the weekend. Time for me to sit back, relax, and just enjoy it. But I've actually spent most of the time complaining how bored I am & how I want to go to something.

This morning my husband was going to go to his families cabin to do some things but the lovely storm made it so that wouldn't be happening. It also kept me inside all morning, so I couldn't do anything but sit there and watch some Man vs. Food and take a little cat nap.

You would think that I would be enjoying this "R&R" but I really just miss all of the kids & all of the chaos even though I'm dying for it by our Friday. I'm just so hard to please aren't I?

I will breifly get to see half of the clan this afternoon when I pick Alexander up. Tonight is "Grandparents Night" at his school & so my Mom & Stella are going to play a little bingo and have some fun.

Hmmm....what else can I go on about my weekend....Oh yes, JJ & I went to see 'Devil' last night & we met up with his sister & her Mike/man friend /person/guy thing..... :) I wasn't really looking forward to seeing this movie at all. I thought it looked stupid & like your typical movie now days..But it ACTUALLY had a good message to it and it was a bit more religious than I was expecting. Not really on the gory scale, not really on the scary scale either. So I'd give it a 7/10 but I'd tell you that you probably could wait until it came out instead of spending $8.00 per ticket.

Speaking of $8.00 per ticket I know some of my friends that live in big cities are thinking (BIG DEAL!) But seriously?! You've got an expensive date on your hands right there. $16.00 for 2 tickets and of course you have to get pop corn and a drink! The last time we got pop corn we got 2 drinks and a small popcorn that was only like, a dollar LESS than the huge one. So you might as well spend your $16.50 on it! So after a whopping $32.50 you had better hope that movie was worth it. /whattheheckmovietheatrerant

..and this concludes my weekender blah blah blah :)

This, that, & the other!

Just a few things to ramble about:
 Ramble numero uno: I am pretty lucky to have all 5 children but when my weekend comes to have no children I'm pretty damn relieved. I get a break every other weekend. Joey & Dylan go to their Mothers & Alexander, Aiden, & Miley go to Patricks house. By Sunday I am always missing them all ,but I really do enjoy the break. Of course I'd better enjoy it while I can because soon we will have "ours" all the time!

 Ramble numero dos: Last night while my husband & I were laying in bed we were talking(like we do frequently when it's nice and quiet) about how life is and how everything panned out. We were talking about marriage, kids, & our unborn baby. How things went so very fast but so very right. I sometimes sit and think and sometimes still 'can't believe' I'm having another child. It hasn't been too long since I've taken care of tiny babies but I'm so terrified that I have somehow forgotten how to do it! While that's probably really unreasonable It's a serious fear of mine! 

Ramble numero tres:  A friend of mine has been reading this book called parenting with love & logic from birth to 6 years. I read some of the examples online last night from this book because I was curious about it...It seems like something I want to purchase and try. 

Last night I kind of tried the technique on the kids when it came to that fun time called bed time. My eldest son, Alexander, we really don't have a hard time with. He whines a little bit when it comes to bedtime but not too bad. It's the three 3 year old's that are the worst. So after we discovered that the TV in the children's rooms are ruined, which by the way we only discovered while they all were panicking that they couldn't watch Toy Story and running around like they were about to cease to exist......We figured out that one of the children had poured an entire bottle of cleaner into the TV. I asked who had done it, and Miley said Joey did it. So, I asked Joey if he had done it and he had said he did and became very upset.


I was very angry by that point but I had decided to try something different. I told Joseph, Aiden, & Miley that they have 2 choices. They can either go to bed when I tell them to go to bed from now on or they can choose not to listen & J and I will not be getting them another TV for their rooms. They ignored me & chose the first option at first & when I said fine, no TV then, they finally went upstairs without hardly any problems.




It seems like these days physical punishment does nothing, screaming is not only unhealthy but it also does absolutely nothing and time out is something you can't use frequently before it becomes routine, so I HAVE to try something different before I drive myself insane. I don't think this technique will work with all situations but I do think it will work with most situations. All I know is, I'm very open to new suggestions & I am ready to get this book & try to work things out around here.

Mornings

THE MORNING

Never have I ever been a morning person. You could probably ask anyone who knows me well enough to know that I absolutely loath the mornings! Do you know what I hate most now about the mornings? The fact that I can't drink COFFEE!!!!! With my lovely kidneys being in the condition they are in...annnddd the fact that I am pregnant.....Coffee is pretty much OUT of the question. Even a damn mountain dew would do but nope, "Soda is a treat now."

Okay, back to what I was wanting to talk about in the first place before my rant about the lack of caffeine in my life....Around here we have a night routine like I posted previously, but we also have a morning routine. Our morning routine needs a little bit of tweaking because it's pretty much lacking in organization. To save myself some time I get all of the kids clothes ready the night before. Does anyone have sock trolls? We have sock trolls around here. I'll spend at least an HOUR trying to find socks for the kids. That's what I always miss about summer...SANDLES!

Anyway, our motivation(or lack there of):  Not one person in our home is motivated to get dressed or make sure they have what they need for school (back packs..bags..etc) So we're constantly searching for these things minutes before we need to leave. So in return I'm stressing the heck out, my husband is stressing the heck out, and I'm sure the kids are thinking it's pretty comical to see two people running around hollering..WHERES THIS...HAVE YOU FOUND THAT?????

Ok so you are probably thinking, well why don't you just lay everything out like you do the clothes? Yeah that sounds great and all but I already do a lot the night before! I try not to do a system overload here! Refer to previous discussion!

I think it will always be like this though, I think every large family has hectic mornings. I enjoy the chaos some days..Other days I could do without.

How important are extra curricular activies to you?

"extras"
there are a lot of things for kids to do after school these days. anywhere between art club to football. in our family we've discussed that we feel it's important that there are things for the kids to do other than sitting and watching tv & playing video games.

My ex husband(patrick) is a huge sports fanatic, so he's always thinking of new things for Alexander, Aiden, & Miley to be in.My eldest son, Alexander, played soccer for 2 years and he decided he didn't want to play anymore so this year we're doing flag football.

Alex was going to do boy scouts this year but we weren't able to make the meeting so i promised him that we would make it this year.

my husband and i have discussed getting the younger kids into some kind of sport this coming spring & we decided that we could start them into doing something i'm familiar with (soccer) so we're considering signing the 3 younger ones up. the only conflict with that is we have alternating weekends with the other parents. However, patrick has no problem taking them to their games on the weekend that he has them. in john & i's divorce both parties have to agree on things such as this! i don't think it should be a problem though. i don't think anyone of us would ever want to keep the children out of something that the kids seem interested in.

miley has said "sometimes that she would like to do cheer leading." i'm not sure about that part but something that is associated with that is gymnastics which I'm most defiantly thinking about. i always wanted to do that as a little girl and in our family we weren't  able to afford the lessons.

the challenge that i feel that we will face as the kids get older is who is going to want to do what and when. i have a feeling that we're going to be constantly running. whether it's because one is doing art club, choir, foot ball, so on and so forth...I'm almost positive we'll have conflicting schedules. just another joy in being a large family. imagine how it's going to be with graduation :)

Pregnancy

The photo to the left is a photograph of our what it seems to be penguin! It's actually the fetus with the yolk sac still attached :) That was taken when I was just 2 months pregnant. Right now I will be 17 weeks on Wednesday so I'm almost a little over 4 months pregnant.

We are seriously so excited to find out what we are having which will be in about 3 1/2 weeks. Myself, my husband & our families are really hoping for a girl. Only because there are so many boys already! I'm sure that if we get blessed with another little boy everyone will be equally as happy. But we're still rooting for pink!

Today John & I went to Wal*Mart and they were having this sale on baby clothes for summer. So we bought 1 super cute pink outfit (that J picked out himself) and picked out a super cute blue outfit. So I figure either way we don't lose.

This pregnancy has been rough
Out of the 2 previous pregnancies this one is probably the worst. I am tired all of the time. I'm also very sick all the time, even in the 2nd trimester. I think I've puked more now than with the 1st trimester! I was hospitalized for 2 1/2 days because I've always had some craptastic problems with Kidney stones. This time I passed a stone on my own & I also had a very sever kidney infection. So I wasn't eating or drinking and I was in pain constantly. So after getting my fever down and loading me up with antibiotics I was able to go home. I guess I can't blame the pregnancy for the kidney problems, but since I've had stones before the kidney infections are more likely to happen while pregnant AND taking prenatal vitamins I've found out from my urologist are actually HURTING me than doing GOOD! Taking the P Vitamins could actually make me MORE prone to getting stones.


But this is all worth it
In the end I will have one of the most beautiful babies in the world. The very last child J or I will ever have. We have decided that I am going to get my tubes tied and so it makes this pregnancy even more special!

 

Bed time

Bedtime: My favorite time.

Okay so I've got a little time before I take shower (finally) to write something that I thought some of you may be interested in & I also would like to hear your bed time routines with your children (either on here or facebook!)

Step 1: Bath
 Giving 5 kids a bath is kind of crazy especially when they all want to take one first....I wish we had 2 bathrooms!

Step 2: Kisses, hugs, & stalling.
After about the 5,000th kiss for each kid & 10 millionth hug you can guess that SOMEONE has an excuse. My foot hurts, I got hurt, they hit me, I need a drink....& the list goes on...The famous quote of the night is always....Get your butt back upstairs NOW or I will take away ______!


Step 3: Repeat step 2 for about 10-20 minutes
It's true. I know every single child stalls! I think our kids have got it down to an art if you will!

Last but not least Step 4: Enjoy the peace and quiet
It finally happened. They are asleep. Their tiny angelic faces are at rest for real this time. They aren't hiding anything or getting into anything. They are in dreamland and SOON we will be too....G'night!

Trying not to "pick favorites"

My husband and I have had a recent discussion on "favorites."

I had been feeling pretty bitter lately about how he gives my "step" son, Joey, special treatment. By the way, I probably wont use the word "step" in any of my blogs after this. I hate using that word and anyone who is probably reading this already knows that Joseph & Dylan are my "step" children. SO! back to the issue at hand: favorites!

I say that he favors Joey out of all of the children & he says that he does not. Although, he has admitted to being more sensitive when it comes to him because he has had such a rough past. My husband, John, had a very messy divorce & still continues to battle is ex-wife regularly. So of course, it effects Joseph & Dylan. More so Joey. I can most definitely understand that issue, but meanwhile there are things that are completely unrelated that he may get "babied" for.

Then we got onto the topic of how I treat my first born son, Alexander, who is six years old. My husband says that I baby him more than I do the others & of course I say I do not. I let Alex get away with a lot more than I do the others, it has been said!

So we took the time to reflect on how we treat our kids and we treat them in different ways. So actually, we're "babying" ALL of the children. Alexander gets "special treatment" because he's the oldest, Joey gets "special treatment" because he is the most sensitive, Aiden gets "special treatment" because he doesn't catch on as fast as the others, Miley gets "special treatment" because she's the only girl & Dylan gets "special treatment" because he is the baby.

Sometimes it's really hard to maintain a blended family especially when there are so many of us! I get very ticked off and so does my husband at times. But with us, the good outweighs the bad and THAT is what keeps us going.