Why is our relationship so awesome?

So from time to time I like to write about the relationship that my husband and I have. I love to do this because there are so many wonderful things about a man I would have never guessed to be my soul mate. There were so many things going against us in the beginning. First of all, when we had first got together I wasn't divorced yet. In fact, my divorce took so long because Patrick & I were fighting back in forth between custody and child support agreements. Not only that my family and some of my friends did not support the relationship because they were all told how much of a piece of crap he was. He was put to be a woman beater and a terrible human being...

Why is our relationship so awesome?

While I know that some of the things he has done in his previous relationship was not right, nothing was ever done with out provocation...and he has never ever laid a hand on me or even acted like he would ever lay his hands on me. Especially in the begging. He was at my beckoning call. He would be there at any moment I needed him no matter if he had to work, or had plans, or anything. John pretty much was the only person I had to listen to me 24/7 especially when my family had turned their backs on me.

Why is our relationship so awesome?I had only been talking to him for a short while when he had offered to take me to see my good friend Amanda Clare in Chicago.  He offered to pay for it all, and I was really uneasy about taking an out of town trip with him. But that time in Chicago I knew that I wanted a relationship with him. I wasn't sure what kind of relationship I was looking for...Especially since I was still hurting and obsessing over everything Patrick did.

This is us together outside of a Polish restaurant in Chicago. We all had so much fun together and I was very glad that I could have my friends meet John without any judgment.

Why is our relationship so awesome?
The first year of our relationship was quite rough. I had ended up getting very sick with kidney stones, my Mom had to kick me out of her house because of contract reasons, and my Grandmother was going through some things that I did not want to be around and not only that she did not have the means to support myself and my 3 children. With no where else to go J opened up his home to myself and my three children with open arms and his family pulled together to get the things we needed in the house since I had not had any beds, toys, or anything like that from Patricks house.

Why is our relationship so awesome?

Maybe two weeks after that we had  been together he was hospitalized with Mono. He also had liver problems witch goes hand in hand with mono. It was frightening to say the least. About a week after that, J had gotten slapped with his second restraining order. That time was the hardest time we had I think in our relationship. He cried every single night, and I could feel his pain and I wanted to be there for him. He barely wanted to get out of bed. He did not understand why he was constantly getting told lies about, when he was being the best Father he knew how to be.Being around my kids was really hard for him and it was hard for me because I did not want him to resent that we were there. I was feeling guilty because I had felt that if I was not there that none of this would have happend. I felt that it was all my fault, not because we had done anything wrong, but because I was with John. Because I moved in, because we were together, and dare I say it in love.But I pushed hard and helped him through that time,and he got the boys back BECAUSE of me. and it brought us even closer together...

Why is our relationship so awesome?

Which brings me to when we went to KAY in Peoria. He had asked me to go into the jewelry store to pick out things I liked...Rings I liked...I was shocked and I thought he was just playing around. So I went inside and picked out all these rings that I had liked and tried them on and he told me that he would buy it for me. There were ENGAGEMENT rings. I wasn't sure how I felt about this, to be honest, I was going through a really tough divorce..We had not been together for very long...and shortly after that he bought me my 1300 ring set and said I would have to wait for him to propose to me.

Why is our relationship so awesome?
After the proposal, my divorce almost being finally over, we had some bumps in the road and I was very unsure if I should get married to him. I was open and honest with him and told him that I wasn't sure that we should get married because I wasn't sure if it was right. We talked for hours, we cried for hours, and not only did he decide that he loved me more than he had ever loved anyone I realized that I did too. I had someone to talk to about my feelings..and I realized that I wasn't SCARED to tell him how I felt... We were going to be married and we were going to have our crazy five children all in one home.

 

Why is our relationship so awesome?

J and myself had made a huge decision together to have another child. We also made the decision to get our names tattooed on each other with the infinity symbol. The tattoo idea was mainly Johns and I really had to think about it. I didn't make a split decision. I knew that this is a life time thing, I wasn't even married yet, was this really a good idea? But as I sat back and saw what kind of father, son, human being this man was...This man I was going to marry so quickly...I would be willing to write his name on me forever. Because I knew that I would love him forever, as crazy as it sounded.

 

Why is our relationship so awesome?Through the fights and through the trials of being a family with six children..We grow stronger every day. We talk about anything and everything that is on our minds. We sleep together every night, we never go to bed angry, and we do almost everything together. We trust one another. We will be married for almost a year on August 3rd and I can't believe that it has been that quick.  I love my husband with all of my heart and soul and it will always be that way.